|This morning I want you to stop-everything- and ask yourself this question: What have you been telling yourself that you can't do?
When is the last time you told yourself: I can't. I don't. I'm not good enough. I'll never be able to. I'm not meant to.? If I'm being honest, the last time for me was when I opened up this blog post and sat blankly staring at the screen. Immediately, no less than seven different thoughts ran through my head of why I would never (or should never) be able to write a post like this.
And I guess that in and of itself is the reason it needs to be done.
How many times do we go through our days accepting these stories we tell ourselves as the truth. I'll never be able to shoot like so & so...I guess I don't have what it takes. or Of course I made that mistake, I always mess things like that up. or Of course I didn't get asked to do that project, I never get asked to do things like that. or I'll never have gear like that, a studio like that, get to shoot weddings like that, or be given opportunities like that. or It always comes so easy for her/him, but that will never ever be me. Sounds pretty familiar right? I know, because I've thought all of them too.
Throughout the course of our business, I can't tell you how many times I've told myself these stories about how we'll never be able to do this or how it always happens for someone else or how nothing is ever going to change. And you know what? It just isn't true. And yet, those thoughts still keep creeping in.
I don't know why our thoughts work the way that they do. I don't know why we're hard wired to say things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to someone else. And honestly, I don't know why we listen to ourselves when we do. But what I do know, is that it's holding us back.
Every little lie, every cutting remark, every criticism we say about ourselves is holding us back from our ability to go out and shine. To run like hell toward a dream and to feel that rush when we finally decide to just let go and fly. To feel the warmth on our faces, to have that light from within. And to leap each time the ledge comes around. And yet....we lie.
I want you to do me this favor. As you go through the rest of your day, I just want you to keep a running count. Every time you catch yourself thinking one of these self-defeating thoughts, just mark it down somewhere or keep a count in your head. And then at the end of the day, see how many times you told yourself you can't. Heck, at the end of the hour see how many times it was. That will be step one.
Then tomorrow we're going to do it again. Only this time, every time you catch yourself saying you can't....I want you to find a way to turn it around into a can. Find a way to tell yourself the story of how it can happen. How it will happen.
Then go out and run like hell toward it.
Rock it out,