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Becky It really is amazing how we think that just because what people are showing us is put together, they must be put together all the time. I honestly thought I was the only one who spent hours trying to find the right words for a blog post. Yall are so awesome! Thank you! Oh and I comment way after the fact on posts cause I like to read all blogs in chronological order, but I'm always behind =)  Jul 25, 2012, 11:16am

Jenny Probably my favorite post ever ever ever. Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one who has sudden meltdowns about Facebook. :)  Jul 13, 2012, 3:44pm

Kerri Deatherage Its so great to see the human side to you guys. I really appreciated this, because especially after listening to your section on Selling Secrets, I was feeling a bit inadequate in comparison. Well that, and feeling completely overwhelmed with how far I still need to go in order to be successful. The key is to not constantly compare yourself to others, which is a key necessity to always be reminded of. So thank you. Thank you for keeping it real, and keeping it human. Much appreciated! You guys really are great.  Jul 11, 2012, 12:37pm

Lori Calhoun Love.LOVE.Love. This post! I think these are feelings every.single.person. on the planet has. No matter how famous, successful, what industry, etc. As humans we always want more, what others have, and to keep reaching, to keep achieving. I don't think it's always such a bad thing either. I actually had the thought the other day "I wish I could take instagram photos as good as..." SERIOUSLY?!?! Then it sunk in, and I was determined to go do it! But, seriously, I still crap up at the thought. Oh, and I hate jealousy. Mostly, that on rare occasions I feel it. But I think Justin is right. While you feel it, and yearn for what others have, so in turn people do the same for what's yours, and so the world turns...thanks for being awesome!  Jul 8, 2012, 5:35pm

angel What I think: I would be happy to look as good as you do in a photo! ;-) But in reality, I wouldn't be happy. I'd always find something to not like. It's crazy. Thanks for keeping it real.  Jul 3, 2012, 4:02pm

Julia Great. Now I'm homesick. Love the pictures! Fine, just this ONCE I will say that Nantucket is ALMOST as nice as Martha's Vineyard! :-)  Jul 3, 2012, 11:45am

Jackie I think you are so AMAZING! Really! You have no idea just how inspiring you are to me! I apologize for not commenting like I should! I'm just getting my business started since my son just graduated from high school, and will be leaving for college in the fall. I just shot my first wedding, and had a hard just doing my first blog post, and Facebook fan page with a whopping 27 fans. :(. I guess you could a little behind the game being that I'm 48. But, if I could just be half the person and photographer that you are, I would be happy. I hope you will stay just the way you are! Because, you're beautiful! Even in yoga pants!  Jul 3, 2012, 1:24am

Lisa Cour So...why DO yoga pants first get a hole in that unfortunate place?? Its makes it so hard to justify going out in public with them on! :)  Jul 2, 2012, 10:25pm

Brittany I meant to comment last week but got totally sidetracked and forgot which only reminds me how easy it is to feel like everyone else is on top of EVERYTHING and I am just not. Every day I read your blog I wonder how you manage to have everything together seemingly all the time - thank you for reminding us all that things aren't always as they appear and mostly importantly, that that is OK! Thank you for doing what you do, it inspires me every day :)  Jul 2, 2012, 4:38pm

Gertrude this post was inspiring! thank you for being so honest & sharing your heart - it's such an amazing way for people to really connect with you & learn real life lessons. i'm still new to the whole blogging & trying to 'define my brand' thing, & most of the time i don't do anything b/c i don't know where to start or what everyone really wants to see...i'm so encouraged to just do what i can, be entirely myself & let go of the stress of it all. beautiful photos by the way. :)  Jul 2, 2012, 3:04pm

jamie you are amazing. and so is this post! thank you for being REAL.  Jul 2, 2012, 11:29am

Elizabeth I READ all your blogs I look forward to them every morning (yes, at work I wait with baited breath)....I may not always post a comment but just know your blogs are well received by me at least. I read other blogs and they do not get one comment hardly ever and I have a feeling that would be my blog. Now that would make me feel worthless and why do I even bother? Geez, sometimes I cannot even get one comment on facebook from my FRIENDS. Even when I am having a bad day. Just know that you guys are awesome, I LOVE your writing and I know I do look forward to your posts.  Jul 2, 2012, 6:27am

katie s you guys are so real and so you, and so wonderful. i love reading your blog, i may not be a photagrapher, but you give me inspiration and i thank you! :)  Jun 30, 2012, 11:26pm

Melissa I'm a newbie...almost 2yr old newbie with a 3yr old and everything else that comes with it, lol. I so feel blessed to have read this "part of your life" that is so much like mine (minus your experience and rich photos. Still working on the manual part!!) I've wished I could be mentored by someone like you. And today, I walked right beside you. Thanks for being REAL<3  Jun 30, 2012, 10:59am

sharon elizabeth this is me HUGGING YOU -- 123098123098 times over and over again! <3 <3 <3 <3 <3  Jun 30, 2012, 10:24am

Nicole Haley Amen, Mary! From one yoga pant wearer to another. Hope you get a moment this weekend to JUST take a breath and enjoy.  Jun 30, 2012, 10:15am

Christine Donovan Thank you for this, for making me laugh, and reminding me that we typically show the good and leave out the bad, but tend to forget everyone else is doing the same. As i sit here in my uniform, yoga shorts and an old navy t, I can't thank you enough for being real, and making it cool and fun to be real. Your very last point... I really did laugh out loud! hehe  Jun 30, 2012, 9:40am

Julia G. Thanks Mary! I so so so needed this yesterday :) xoxo  Jun 30, 2012, 9:17am

Eryn Kesler I for one, read all of your blog posts :) Nightly, before I can fall asleep...I'm laying there reading it on my iphone :). I'll admit, I've wondered how YOU guys do it...I've layed in bed hoping that someday I can have a sliver of the success you guys do. I get jealous and inspired all at the same time. Your authenticity was a total blessing to me tonight. AND...I spent about 10 minutes today, prior to reading this post, that I really need to take the risk, order that album for the wedding venue I just shot at, and hope that someday my graph will look something like yours. What you do matters to me, and constantly inspires me to grow, push, be better. Hugs to you, sweet Mary!  Jun 30, 2012, 4:13am

ami Mary, I seriously love you. Thank you for being honest and keeping it real. I lol-ed about the instagram portrait bc my guy was just two days ago telling me to PUT THE PHONE AWAY ALREADY bc instead of eating our ice cream together, I was busy taking 5 photos of it so it would be perfect for instagram. And I think I got one like after all that effort, hahaha. Sometimes I feel like even know I know all of this blogging and social media is worth it, it can feel like a never ending game of comparison and like sometimes no one is even paying attention. But it's good to know so many people go through the same thing, and that most of us just really want to impress each other which is why we get out of our pj's or yoga pants at all :). I also want to say thanks for blogging every single day, bc i know it is not easy AT ALL, and even on the days that my Reader is empty, I know I can always count on you for a good post :)  Jun 30, 2012, 3:15am

Carissa Baaah MARY!! I swear you always post these amazing, inspiring posts EXACTLY when I need to hear them. Thank you so much for being so brutally honest. I truly thought I was the only one who took 3 hours to write a blog post.... It's so nice to know that I'm not alone. I just love you guys to pieces. Thank you for all that you do!!!!  Jun 30, 2012, 12:58am

Sarah I read every blog post. Every one. You're doing a great job.  Jun 29, 2012, 11:14pm

Debbie ahhhhh I'm not the only one!! It is too much to keep up with and the real focus should be on living our lives for ourselves, not for other's.  Jun 29, 2012, 8:50pm

Sydni Jackson :)  Jun 29, 2012, 8:43pm

Suzanne Mary, I hear you! I don't know how some people get it all done a day! I work from home, as does my husband, and we have two small sons who don't go to daycare... so just keeping up with the house makes me feel like a total failure some days. Keeping up running a staff of 7 people, with like 100 weddings a year... I melt down probably on a weekly basis. And I live in my pj pants when there are no clients around! Despite being a makeup artist, I only really wear it to weddings where I'm working. I think you're doing an amazing job, and I'm sure everyone else who reads your blog will agree. Doesn't matter what goes on in the background, b/c even the super heros have their bad days, too! And you my dear are a super hero in my book! So keep on kickin butt and being awesome. Cuz it works for you!  Jun 29, 2012, 7:43pm

Kari Jeanne Just when I thought I couldn't like you any more - you go and post this. SO MUCH of what you wrote hit home for me and I love that you put yourself out there because YOU ARE NOT ALONE! None of us are in this crazy amazing struggle of photography and life and it is reassuring to hear that others feel the way I do :) THANK YOU for posting this - it is so worth all the effort you put into blogging. I value your posts so much :) I'm sending a big internet hug your way!!!  Jun 29, 2012, 7:36pm

Sandra Fazzino i'm not sure if you've ever seen the TV show 227, but it was hysterical and one of the main characters' names was Mary. only, the way her girlfriend would say her name was Maaaaraayy. you have to have a black queen inside of you to say it right. listen, maarrraaay - i loved yesterday's pancake post and meant to say so. i'm tired of social media, too. you have company. and i'm writing to you from my home office where i've been wearing ten year old yoga pants from target all day, no make up and a crazy bun on my head... and will probably change an hour before my husband gets home from work. i'm not a big shot photographer, though. and i haven't been invited to any fancy lunches lately either. but to be really super honest… i have learned that it feels good to put myself out there regardless of the response i receive. and you should feel very good about all that you and justin do. because it's all wonderful.  Jun 29, 2012, 6:36pm

Stephanie Stewart I love this post! Mary, I definitely understand, I feel the exact.same.way at times. Please know that I adore you both! I've only been lacking on blog comments this week due only to absolutely horrendous internet service while traveling! And that makes this prego woman sad! If I have enough wi-fi juice I'm going to comment on your amazing pancake session post right now!  Jun 29, 2012, 6:25pm

grandmaIna I think most of us feel that way. Other people seem to do things so easily and look so great every time we see them. That's doesn't mean they look great when we don't see them!! And I love all your blogs even if I don't comment.  Jun 29, 2012, 6:14pm

Ashley Scobey Oh. My. Goodness. I had a sweet-potato-meltdown just last night and vowed to give up and go make a living creating homemade soap on a beach in anywhere-but-here. I am so thankful for you and your honesty and your yoga pants. We are all so much more alike than we are different. And nothing worth having comes easily. You're amazing.  Jun 29, 2012, 5:03pm

Jeff Lundstrom LOL ... you had me at "...rhythmically banging my head on my desk ..."  Jun 29, 2012, 4:53pm

Melissa Hunt Ok so let me first say.... I read just about ALL of your posts...and I never comment. That's usually because my reality involves tackling a 2 year old little boy while reading blogs, facebook posts, and admiring instagram photos. But for the record, I love reading all of them and never think that they are a waste. Thank you for this post about being real. I share sooo many of your thoughts in this post and feel so much more at ease. :)Melissa  Jun 29, 2012, 4:44pm

Mary Powell Thank you for this post. They were words I needed to hear as I can often feel like everyone else has it together and I never will. I'm writing this post in my sweats and my hair in a bun (finishing up some editing) so it was more than fitting! Thanks for being willing to be honest and encourage the rest of us through your honesty!  Jun 29, 2012, 4:12pm

amy soper I adore you two daily. You make me smile and I appreciate every time I read your posts (especially this one) and say to myself ME TOO! Which is most of the time. Thank you for pulling back the curtain and showing us the Almighty Oz. :)  Jun 29, 2012, 4:10pm

talia mary - i read your blog religiously, i seriously should post more often, and for all the posts you have that touch me, this one hits close. it is SO HARD not to feel the things you are, i think a piece of all of us falls in line with your "list". and in all honesty - for real - girl, you are a rockstar! yoga pants and hair buns do not define us. don't lose sight of the power of spoken and written words and the actions which make you truly you.  Jun 29, 2012, 4:09pm

Chantel My favorite quote on this subject is "Don't compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel." Which is funny for me to say to you, because I love reading about all your travels, the cool people you meet, your relationships with Justin/Cooper/your family, etc. and I often think, "I'd love to have her life!" (And I'm not even in the industry! I'm just a lover of beautiful photos and honest words, both of which this blog has an abundance of!) Your blog has become a daily read for me and you should know that what you write matters, whether you do it in your yoga pants or a brand new outfit from J. Crew!  Jun 29, 2012, 4:02pm

Michelle Thanks for the honesty! You guys are awesome and I love that you always just put it out there and you are REAL! We all have the same thoughts, I am sure. I get sad when NO one ever comments on my blog and I feel like I'm wasting my time, but then I get a bride who calls and books a wedding off that same blog post : ) I guess we have to remember the good things in life.  Jun 29, 2012, 4:02pm

Alison D. My favorite professor from college is now one of my students in my workshops. I love and respect her beyond words and I am humbled she would look to me to teach her. After we finished shooting last night with my dog breathing down her neck, she looked at me and said "How do you do it? The job, the business, the kids, all of it? You are amazing, you really have it all together." I just smiled and shook my head. I told her I don't have it all together, I am not superwoman. I am just a crazy woman with a dream. ANd I realized it was kinda bitter sweet. There are days that start at 5 am and I roll on home at 9pm. There are practices I have missed, good night tuck ins that didn't happen and evenings hunched over a computer instead of a game board. My husband stood in my place those times. There are fights over time and passion and dreams, there are tumbleweeds of cat hair rolling across my dining room floor, there are days I just disolve into self doubt. Most days I am excited I get to my day job dressed, let alone dressed professionally. But I love it. I love the crazy and this dream, so I do what I have to do to get there. I go crazy with the what if's, I felt so left out when I couldn't go to WPPI this year, that I am not doing enough for my clients. Then I remind myself that this is my story and how I live it is only up to me. So head down and keep going. And thank God I am not the only one that stares at the screen trying to see what comes next! Much love guys, and much respect for the honesty  Jun 29, 2012, 3:21pm

Jordan Brittley i love this post. i loooooooooooooooove it!  Jun 29, 2012, 3:14pm

Kate P There's a saying Mary, that you can't compare your insides with everyone else's outsides. Just because we're only seeing the finished product and comparing it to what feels like our "mess" - doesn't mean they don't have the same mess too.  Jun 29, 2012, 2:33pm

ashley barnett Mary I love you and your mint green chinos!! :) I swear you are always in my head. We're getting ready to launch our new stuff and I'm exhausted. Tired of wondering how it will be received, if it will even matter, if people even care, if, sometimes, truthfully, I even care anymore haha. There's a quote I read that basically said that looking at someone else's life is like watching their highlight reel, which of course makes you feel terrible about your own, sometimes straight to DVD life. All that being said, your highlight reel is looking pretty good ;) Happy weekend!  Jun 29, 2012, 2:29pm

rich you have an amazing way of being honest and letting us know feel like it's okay to not have everything perfect =). somehow your photos still make it look like everything is perfect!  Jun 29, 2012, 2:28pm

Christy Tyler Oh Mary. THANK YOU FOR THIS. Seriously. This is my first "real" busy season without a full-time job and I thought it should be much easier than life was WITH a full-time job AND photography last summer. But you know what? Not so much. It is HARD. There are so many things pulling me every which way - pressure & expectations & online personas... meet-ups for 2013 weddings, engagement sessions, family sessions, weddings every weekend (or 2x a weekend), not to mention the blogging, and the feeling of needing to keep up with the Joneses on facebook and twitter and everywhere else. It is such a relief that someone I SO look up to in this industry feels the same way I do most days. And that I'm not the only one whose husband is impressed if I'm showered by dinner time. haha! You two are amazing, just remember that. As you are, buns, yoga pants & all! <3 xoxo!  Jun 29, 2012, 2:23pm

Emily You are so inspiring! I look up to you even more now after reading this post! Thank you for being so real and genuine. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who isn't always put together or who gets jealous over the great things that other people get to do. You truly are my hero Mary! And by the way, I read your blog every day. I usually don't comment, but your posts mean a lot to me! You and Justin are amazing photographers and wonderful people! Thank you!  Jun 29, 2012, 2:18pm

JamieY Thank you for sharing this post. It is taking me like 5 minutes to write the perfect thing in response, and it just isn't happening. So, your awesome, thanks for being awesome, and thats it.  Jun 29, 2012, 2:16pm

Shannon Rosan Thank you for the honesty... For keeping it real. This post is so courageous and inspiring! You and Justin are a breath of fresh air :)  Jun 29, 2012, 2:12pm

Jessica Beautiful as always! And it's perfectly ok to not have it all together all the time. Life needs to fall apart sometimes to remind us to appreciate the times when life is completely perfect.  Jun 29, 2012, 2:12pm

Abby Grace This is, hands down, my most favorite blog post you've ever written. No hyperbole- it really is my favorite  Jun 29, 2012, 2:09pm

lori I read the couples graph one the other day, and I didn't comment because they were all things I already knew and still have fallen short on. Your post today hits close to home as well, but in a totally different way. This one leaves me feeling less like a failure and more like an encouraged spirit. Thank you for that Mary. xo  Jun 29, 2012, 2:09pm

Pamela Did I just really read this on Justin& Mary's blog? I just want to say THANK YOU because I feel this way what seems like on a weekly basis with my photography business. I especially relate to the trying to keep up with social media part. Since when did blogging, or facebook updates, etc. become so important that I don't get dressed until I GET IT DONE. When I first ran into you guys I immediately idolized you. I wanted your talent, creativity, your relationship.... it's kinda silly, and somewhat embarrassing to admit. Thanks for being real, and raw. I'd have been terrified to hit the "publish" button on this post but you did, and thank you... (P.S. I also have 6 year old yoga pants with a hole in an unfortunate spot. I finally caved and got news ones. But guess which ones I still resort to....)  Jun 29, 2012, 2:07pm

katie yuen I think your hair is cute in a bun. and yup, I'm one of those people who gets frustrated because I feel like YOU have it together all the time and I feel like I need to get like that. Truth is, we all have good days and bad days and we need to just stop comparing ourselves and just BE. And I ALWAYS comment in my head, and I should just comment on the blog so you know for sure that I love everything you write and it lifts me up. Have an amazing day Mary xoxoxoxoxo  Jun 29, 2012, 2:07pm

Kelly I loved this post!! Thank You!! I get so overwhelmed with work and life and keeping up with social media sometimes... Thank you for keeping it real and sharing your fears and doubts with us ~ Love the pictures of Nantucket :)  Jun 29, 2012, 2:06pm

Lisa Is it okay for me to be glad that it doesn't all come so easily to you? Because there have been many moments where I've been reading your blog, and I've wished to be you. You do make everything seem so easy, and beautiful. It's a good feeling to know that you are in fact human, and a perfectly normal one at that. Makes me feel like the dreams I have in my head are actually achievable, if someone who seems to have it all feels this way. Just remember that the 10% of perfection that you show us, is the same 10% you're seeing from everyone else ;) Love this post. Thanks for sharing and being so open and honest.  Jun 29, 2012, 1:59pm

Kare This actually made me cry. And made me feel normal. And made me realize you are totally normal, too! lol who'dathunkit? As I continue on my biz break and contemplate my biz future, I am thankful that because of my business, I have found you and Justin - perfectly normal, but perfectly fabulous people.  Jun 29, 2012, 1:34pm

Lydia Thank you for being so real, Mary!! Way too often I get the feeling of not being enough or keeping up enough. Most of the time I don't even get the good days instagramed, blogged, or tweeted! I'm saving this post to reread again and again!  Jun 29, 2012, 1:29pm

Emilia Jane YES! Yes yes yes. And can I add just a hey I love you even in yoga pants. For real. Mary you are one of those kind souls that shows your heart and not just your pretty face. It IS hard and sometimes it is too much. We CANNOT do everything. (though I'm pretty sure you do and do a fab job at it) Sometimes taking the time just to be happy is more important. Anyway, I'm sitting here with my hair in a bun just totally nodding and wanted to give you a big hug!! XXOO  Jun 29, 2012, 1:25pm

Deborah Zoe this might be the BEST post EVER. And don't you worry that other post you thought no one was reading? Well one redhead did and thought it was genius. Thanks for your candor and again saying that its ok to NOT have it together all the time. Except if instagram is invovled. Always have it together for instagram;)  Jun 29, 2012, 1:20pm

Abbey Oh Mary, it does count!!! We love your pancake sessions. Keep doing what you and Justin are doing. We notice and appreciate it!!!  Jun 29, 2012, 1:19pm

Melania I just wanna hug you. :) In the most non-creepy way, because I totally understand you. (Says the girl in yoga pants and a crazy-curly-afro-bun.)  Jun 29, 2012, 1:13pm

Mallory & Justin I feel ya girl. Sometimes it is too much, and right now is one of those times for me too. For the record, your pancake post got 'right-clicked', opened in a new tab, and saved for when I actually have time to read it. I knew I needed to devote sincere attention to what you were sharing...so maybe others did the same! ;-) Keep on keepin' on. If it were easy, everyone would do it.  Jun 29, 2012, 1:10pm

Stacey Hemeyer I LOVE that you did this post! I think it is so easy to get caught up in everyone elses "finished product" that you beat yourself up. And I have to say that your 10% is still pretty amazing! But it is nice to know that you are human and that it is okay to be human. And social media can be overwhelming and we don't have to always be "on" all the time! Thanks for giving us all a good reality check!  Jun 29, 2012, 1:04pm

Amanda Mary I love reading your blog. (Even though I'm not a photographer). Thanks for keeping it real :) You guys are awesome!  Jun 29, 2012, 1:03pm

Cheryle thank you. And just so you know, even though I don't comment, I feel as though everything you write is relevant, hits home and counts to me. Love, another girl who has her hair up in a bun all the time unless there's a photo-op. :) Also reminds me of something I saw recently: "we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel". &#9829;  Jun 29, 2012, 1:02pm

Steph Thank you for this, Mary.  Jun 29, 2012, 1:01pm

Angelsea Urban And THIS is why I love you guys! Justin is a wise man. That is EXACTLY what we are thinking. You do make it look very easy. As I write this wearing my own messy bun!  Jun 29, 2012, 12:59pm

Amanda So, I didn't comment on the Pancake Sessioin post, but that was the first post I'd ever read on your blog and I added you to my Google Reader and came home and told my husband that even though we're one wedding and 2 family sessions into our business, THERE'S HOPE. We could be reaping the rewards from these three families for year. And that we need to suck it up and buy that sample album we've been talking about. So, yes, Mary. That post totally counted. :) And I save my cute outfits for pictures days, too.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:57pm

Dede Edwards I just LOVE you!  Jun 29, 2012, 12:56pm

Lauren Wakefield I feel like hugging my monitor right now. Thank you for being so honest. I honestly believe it is what sets you guys apart. And is something I look up to and strive to do myself. I saw this quote on Pinterest and thought it was fitting. "The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:53pm

Shannon Mary, please show us your bunhead. Because I was one of those people thinking 'How on earth do J&M freaking MASTER everything they do, and look good, and travel and write eloquent, thoughtful blogposts and on top of that they're so NICE!' I think my point is that we all have these thoughts and fears and feel like we need to project our brand at all times...when most of the time the real us are just a bunch of goofy bunheads.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:51pm

athena Can I just say, "samesies" and have that explain it - explain how this post just made me feel? Probably not. Because "samesies" doesn't say that this post made me feel less neurotic for being sad that I don't get to go to things that are, you know, THREE THOUSAND MILES AWAY, with people that, you know, TOTALLY SHOULD HAVE INVITED ME ANYWAY. And it made me feel less alone when I get sad that my favorite image I've ever shot has gotten one comment on my blog today -and maybe my favorite, my best, still won't make any difference in this market and I'll be stuck at mediocre forever. And it makes me feel better that it's difficult for everyone to do this every. single. day -but yes, we only see the highlight reel, never the behind-the-scenes footage (let alone the outtakes!). Thank you, from the depths of my soul, Justin and Mary, for showing all of us yours. So often. So candidly. And with all your hearts. xoxo  Jun 29, 2012, 12:45pm

April K Dude, seriously… I think the majority of photographers out there feel this way, esp the part about looking on facebook and seeing what everyone else is doing. It's frustrating and I've often found myself hiding updates from people who have been more successful than me for that one day. I think taking a break from Social Media is a necessity to sanity. I often tell myself to take a step back and realize that we're all on our own journey! Just like weddings, no 2 journeys are ever the same.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:41pm

Amanda Truth Mary, you inspire me every day. And I'm pretty confident in saying that it's not just me; I'm actually quite confident that you inspire more people than you realize. Every day. Don't ever give up, because Justin is right; because the grass is always greener on the other side; but mostly because you are not alone in feeling the things you feel and even despite those feelings you inspire people. Every day. <3  Jun 29, 2012, 12:39pm

Tricia I really like this post, because let me tell you, you fooled me! :) I'm often jealous of your amazing travels, how cute you & Justin always seem to be all of the time, how beautifully you write and touch people with your words, clearly how talented you are with your camera, your impeccable wardrobe and how you always seem "ready to meet the President" presentable, from your outfits to your accessories and your non-frizzy hair. I think this makes you real, which is even more awesome that you put this out there. I don't always comment but I usually read :) And I'm pretty sure you're some sort of breed of super human with a J&M-blue-colored cape. xoxo :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:38pm

caitlin elizabeth m. you inspire even in your hummus-eating-bouts-of-almost-meltdown. and if ANYONE has taught me that those blog posts that don't get responded to are important, it's you. thank you for this :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:37pm

Jessica You are so not alone!! I spend almost every day in my "comfy pants" as I call them with my hair all messy eating my oatmeal at my desk. I used to read these statuses on facebook of where this person is going and where that person is going and be jealous. But then I realized, I can live life too. There is nothing holding me back but myself. So whether it's trying a new restaurant in town or jetting off for a long weekend, I take in every moment and enjoy every adventure. We don't have to sit back and watch everyone else living their life...we can live ours!! And Justin is right, when we look at other people who seem "put together" we have no idea what's going on behind that and how much it's taking them to hold things together. One last though - we all need to think about the things we HAVE accomplished instead of focusing so much on what we haven't yet and getting ourselves stressed out. You both have done so much and bring so much joy to a lot of people :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:36pm

Stacey Trottier We are all in the same boat. (Not the one in Nantucket, :) )It takes me all morning sometimes to write a blog posts. I get carried away with fb and all the social media too!!! You guys are all over the place and real life like you mentioned before is so much cooler than being stuck on the computer all the time! Enjoy life.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:34pm

Damion hamilton If this be the only comment then so be it!! Your acceptance doesn't come from me nor anybody else. The key is to know who you are and who's you are!! Spend your time trying to gain people's acceptanceand you will always fail. I say the above to say that I have truly so much love and respect for you...REAL respect. I have since that one small encounter 5 years ago at a table after things didn't go they way you'd have hoped, yet your response was open and emotions layout for all to see. You will never lose anything being real like. So with that said...Thanks for keeping' it real. Hugs, Damion  Jun 29, 2012, 12:34pm

Moch LOVED THIS BLOG POST. I feel the same and our photo business is not nearly even close to as big as yours. I laughed really hard, thanks for a good laugh and I do feel you on almost every point :) Thank you! It was perfect for this morning!  Jun 29, 2012, 12:33pm

Heidi Love all your blog posts!  Jun 29, 2012, 12:33pm

katie Thanks for this Mary. I knew all of this in my head already but it's ncie to hear someone like you say it. Especially when starting out, it's so easy to put so much pressure on yourself to look like/feel like you have it all together. I realized earlier this year that I just can't do it. And once I allowed myself to say that outloud, the stress just melted off. Thanks for being real. *big hugs*  Jun 29, 2012, 12:33pm

michelle Thanks for always being so real and honest. Buns and yoga pants are awesome - I'm a ponytail and sweats girl myself. I have come to the conclusion that life is hard....marriage, kids, work and dreams...nothing worth having comes easy. Keep up the good fight. There are alot of us out there that think you are awesome, buns and all :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:31pm

Kristin Greenwald Mary, if it makes you feel better, this post has just solidified the notion that my bf will be purchasing red pants and/or shorts for the season. Everyone needs a post like this as a reality check -- glad you put it out there. :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:31pm

Kelly Cummings Your honesty is so refreshing! You kill it, Mary, and you just need to bounce right back. I feel you so so much on all of the insecurities and I'm so glad to have started zapping the things that make me feel negative about myself. No more following people that bring me down. And we all save our best clothes for days we'll be photographed. Some really glamorous people are just photographed more often :) You've gotta just seek the things that fill YOUR soul, if not, you're doing it wrong. :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:30pm

Jen I love this post Mary! It's nice to know I'm not the only one who feels this way sometimes, and Justin is right - people do think you're one of the ones that has it all together (at least I do!). It's nice to know that even more established photographers have doubts and fears - makes me feel more normal. :) Also, the photos of Nantucket are gorgeous - I really want to visit there someday.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:29pm

Erica Baker Loved this post. Thank you for your honesty. You guys rock :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:28pm

Katie Nesbitt Wow! Thanks for keeping it real:) I definitely feel the same way about social media and am ALWAYS reminding myself that no one posts the crappy parts of their days:) It's easy to get overwhelmed with what other people are doing when you're constantly looking at Facebook, twitter, instagram, etc.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:28pm

Luke This makes me happy, very happy! I read your blog daily and think that one day Cat and I will have our stuff together like you two lovebirds. Glad to see that you are people too and not the super human that I thought you were :)  Jun 29, 2012, 12:27pm

Christa Justin couldn't be more right, I'm totally one of those people who think all of "this" comes easy to you. Guilty as charged. Just thought I'd mention I also have a VERY similar blog post in my draft folder, with an extra part about the Mom's who always post about their perfectly behaved children and spotless houses :) Happy Friday!  Jun 29, 2012, 12:26pm

Kate THANK YOU FOR THIS POST! I feel like this all the time, and it makes me feel better that you too also feel overwhelmed by social media sometimes.  Jun 29, 2012, 12:24pm